How Did I Overcome Desolation?

I’ve been there. Many times. And this is a tough one. A touchy one. This is one where a lot of folks might make a sad awkward face because they’re not sure what to say. There are a million positive words floating around out there just waiting to be snatched up and used, yet noneContinue reading “How Did I Overcome Desolation?”

Some People Are NOT GETTING IT. They Don’t Want To.

And I know what that’s like because I refused to change my behavior for decades. I knew that to get and to stay sober I had to become a permanent non-drinker – I just refused to do it. Yesterday, I replied to a social network post where a woman who had experienced 32 years ofContinue reading “Some People Are NOT GETTING IT. They Don’t Want To.”

It IS Possible!

I just found this photo on a social network site and had to snag it. It’s a wonderful example of what is possible for every addict and alcoholic in terms of beginning a new clean and sober life. We can begin again. This photo, I believe, embodies perfectly the tangible and available potential we allContinue reading “It IS Possible!”

When Does Sobriety Melt Into A Non-Issue?

If I refer to myself as a non-drinker and identify myself as such, which I do, why do I have to keep making my sobriety a priority? Why do I have to keep devoting mental space and energy to it? Can’t I just get on with the rest of my life already? I understand what’sContinue reading “When Does Sobriety Melt Into A Non-Issue?”

I’m 8.5 Months Sober. Feed Me What You Know.

The most recent thing I’ve learned is that I’m moving through life too fast by my own volition. I have a great energy source within me – it’s a beast, and I have no idea where it came from. I seem to be riding it bareback and when I’m not busy trying not to slideContinue reading “I’m 8.5 Months Sober. Feed Me What You Know.”

Are You Being Reasonable?

Why do some folks expect, without thinking this though, to feel happy every single solitary day once they get sober? How reasonable is that? How logical? How likely? Come on folks – it’s not going to happen. No one is happy every day. Okay, maybe Mother Theresa was, but she’s the exception. The small issueContinue reading “Are You Being Reasonable?”

Getting Sober and Staying Sober. What’s the difference?

Relapse.  That’s the difference between getting sober and staying sober.  Getting sober is no small endeavor, and obviously, neither is staying sober. While getting sober might feel impossible to some folks, staying sober is equally challenging. The temptation to drink is always lurking. ALWAYS. Whether someone chooses to drink or chooses to stay sober dependsContinue reading “Getting Sober and Staying Sober. What’s the difference?”

Fruity Alcoholic Drink Dream

I had one of those last night – in a dream, which I find sort of odd because I never drank crap like that. I was a strict vodka and wine drinker. I can understand why having a dream about drinking might make some folks in recovery a little apprehensive. While the dream is inContinue reading “Fruity Alcoholic Drink Dream”

Am I Sober or Am I In Recovery?

What’s the difference? It’s BIG. Is there a difference? YES. To be sober – one needs to stop swallowing alcohol. That’s it. To be in recovery – one needs to become a non-drinker. These are two very different positions to take. The first is a change in outward behavior. Don’t pick up a drink. TheContinue reading “Am I Sober or Am I In Recovery?”

Repetition Is Not My Cup Of Tea.

I might make it two weeks – repeating the same things – before I start rolling my eyes and trying not to pull out the hair I have left. There are numerous avenues that I could take around this subject- repetition – but I’m going to pick just one. It’s called “Hush up a minuteContinue reading “Repetition Is Not My Cup Of Tea.”

Dry Drunk?! Who Coined THAT Term?

Happy people focus on what they have. Unhappy people focus on what they don’t have. It makes sense. Who said “See that guy over there? He’s been sober for 22 years and he’s just a miserable SOB. All the time. I’m going to call him a Dry Drunk and hope everyone else catches on.” AndContinue reading “Dry Drunk?! Who Coined THAT Term?”

The Problem With SELF-CONTROL

Isn’t that we don’t have any. It’s bountiful within each and every one of us, yet completely underutilized. Why? I don’t know! Self-control is right at our fingertips, but how many of us use it? We don’t go to the gym because we don’t feel like it. We eat the cookie because we want it.Continue reading “The Problem With SELF-CONTROL”