Imagine an apartment complex with hundreds of units. Each unit has a key. Right? AND – the leasing office has ONE key that fits all of the units. The skeleton key. It has only one component to it that fits every unit. Cool. Apply this skeleton key to the addict that wants to get cleanContinue reading “Skeleton Key”
I got trashed around my kids when they were young. And today – I’m paying for it. We communicate, my kids and I, but our relationships are strained. More-so with my oldest who remembers things clearly. Today my kids are 25 and 31. I really put my drinking on the starting line when my oldestContinue reading “Do You Get Drunk Around Your Kids? Did A Parent Get Lit Around You?”
There is always a way. Figure it out.
Okay. You know how when you’re taking a walk and you say to yourself, “Damn, I should have taken the car! I’d be there by now!” Well – there are no fast ways to reach sobriety and all that it entails. Because it’s a process. There are numerous steps involved – just like when youContinue reading “An Analogy:”
I am accepting applications for a reader/writing coach. I am NOT looking for an editor. I’ll get to that later. Right now, I am looking to hire someone to read my book, the 1st edition, and tell me what you THINK about the story – regardless what you think I might want to hear. TheContinue reading “Here Is The Big Announcement And It’s Not What You’re Thinking.”
“Want sobriety? Stop swallowing alcohol.” ~Me (Jennifer Place)
What? The EXACT nature of my wrongdoings? What if I don’t know what they are – exactly? What if my list is really long? Like – who wants to listen to all of that? Wait. Do I even want to get into all that bologna? Seriously – what’s the point? How am I supposed toContinue reading “AA Step 5 ~ Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongdoings.”
I never did. I got sane once I got sober, and I got sober on my own. Granted, I had plenty of verbal and emotional support, but no one got sober for me. Everything I relied on to get sober was already within me. And I believe that whatever that is – resides within everybody.Continue reading “Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. (AA Step 2.)”
How am I supposed to man-handle my stress if it’s attached to my unconscious mental iceberg and I’m not even aware it’s down there? Huh?! I think that what I’ve been doing recently is shoveling my stress into my unconscious and letting THAT have a go at it. And it isn’t working out. And it’sContinue reading “How Do We Know If/When We’re Handling Stress Constructively?”
The only way to get sober, the only way to stay sober, is to stop swallowing alcohol. Period. That’s how to win the game. Don’t. Fucking. Play. Everything else is secondary.
Getting sober isn’t for the timid. Once those of us who abused alcohol to the point of no return decide we want to be sober – getting sober is going to cost us. Detoxing from alcohol is painful, draining, scary and lonely. Alcoholics who want to get sober have to be willing to suffer. That’sContinue reading “Are You Willing To Pay?”
Alcoholics don’t need to be told what they can’t do. First of all – it’s nobody’s place to tell another person what they cannot do. And second of all – regardless the remoteness of success – alcoholics deserve to be told what they CAN do. Whether they might fail or not is beside the point.Continue reading “You Think I Can’t Do It? Watch Me.”
Have you ever felt like you’ve wasted your time, energy and breath trying to explain something to someone who just cannot seem to GET IT? And you wonder something like “How is it possible that no matter what I say, she/he just cannot seem to grasp it? How am I explaining this wrong? What elseContinue reading “When It Comes To Your Sobriety Do You Feel Understood?”
For those of you who have read my first book, Saturation, it is going to be rereleased this March. For those of you that haven’t read it – it’ll be out this March. My story cornicles the decades I spent trying to get sober. I spent nearly 12 months in nine residential treatment centers overContinue reading “Saturation: A Memoir, Will Be Republished.”
So, it dawned on me last night, as I was laying in bed trying to fall asleep, that this relationship I’ve been trying to excuse myself from – has some eerie similarities to the experiences I had trying to get sober. It took me 23 years to get sober and to find myself in aContinue reading “A Curious Realization. Ever Have One?”