You Think I Can’t Do It? Watch Me.

Alcoholics don’t need to be told what they can’t do. First of all – it’s nobody’s place to tell another person what they cannot do. And second of all – regardless the remoteness of success – alcoholics deserve to be told what they CAN do. Whether they might fail or not is beside the point.Continue reading “You Think I Can’t Do It? Watch Me.”

When It Comes To Your Sobriety Do You Feel Understood?

Have you ever felt like you’ve wasted your time, energy and breath trying to explain something to someone who just cannot seem to GET IT? And you wonder something like “How is it possible that no matter what I say, she/he just cannot seem to grasp it? How am I explaining this wrong? What elseContinue reading “When It Comes To Your Sobriety Do You Feel Understood?”

Saturation: A Memoir, Will Be Republished.

For those of you who have read my first book, Saturation, it is going to be rereleased this March. For those of you that haven’t read it – it’ll be out this March. My story cornicles the decades I spent trying to get sober. I spent nearly 12 months in nine residential treatment centers overContinue reading “Saturation: A Memoir, Will Be Republished.”

A Curious Realization. Ever Have One?

So, it dawned on me last night, as I was laying in bed trying to fall asleep, that this relationship I’ve been trying to excuse myself from – has some eerie similarities to the experiences I had trying to get sober. It took me 23 years to get sober and to find myself in aContinue reading “A Curious Realization. Ever Have One?”

How Did I Overcome Desolation?

I’ve been there. Many times. And this is a tough one. A touchy one. This is one where a lot of folks might make a sad awkward face because they’re not sure what to say. There are a million positive words floating around out there just waiting to be snatched up and used, yet noneContinue reading “How Did I Overcome Desolation?”

Some People Are NOT GETTING IT. They Don’t Want To.

And I know what that’s like because I refused to change my behavior for decades. I knew that to get and to stay sober I had to become a permanent non-drinker – I just refused to do it. Yesterday, I replied to a social network post where a woman who had experienced 32 years ofContinue reading “Some People Are NOT GETTING IT. They Don’t Want To.”

It IS Possible!

I just found this photo on a social network site and had to snag it. It’s a wonderful example of what is possible for every addict and alcoholic in terms of beginning a new clean and sober life. We can begin again. This photo, I believe, embodies perfectly the tangible and available potential we allContinue reading “It IS Possible!”

When Does Sobriety Melt Into A Non-Issue?

If I refer to myself as a non-drinker and identify myself as such, which I do, why do I have to keep making my sobriety a priority? Why do I have to keep devoting mental space and energy to it? Can’t I just get on with the rest of my life already? I understand what’sContinue reading “When Does Sobriety Melt Into A Non-Issue?”

I’m 8.5 Months Sober. Feed Me What You Know.

The most recent thing I’ve learned is that I’m moving through life too fast by my own volition. I have a great energy source within me – it’s a beast, and I have no idea where it came from. I seem to be riding it bareback and when I’m not busy trying not to slideContinue reading “I’m 8.5 Months Sober. Feed Me What You Know.”

Are You Being Reasonable?

Why do some folks expect, without thinking this though, to feel happy every single solitary day once they get sober? How reasonable is that? How logical? How likely? Come on folks – it’s not going to happen. No one is happy every day. Okay, maybe Mother Theresa was, but she’s the exception. The small issueContinue reading “Are You Being Reasonable?”

Getting Sober and Staying Sober. What’s the difference?

Relapse.  That’s the difference between getting sober and staying sober.  Getting sober is no small endeavor, and obviously, neither is staying sober. While getting sober might feel impossible to some folks, staying sober is equally challenging. The temptation to drink is always lurking. ALWAYS. Whether someone chooses to drink or chooses to stay sober dependsContinue reading “Getting Sober and Staying Sober. What’s the difference?”

Fruity Alcoholic Drink Dream

I had one of those last night – in a dream, which I find sort of odd because I never drank crap like that. I was a strict vodka and wine drinker. I can understand why having a dream about drinking might make some folks in recovery a little apprehensive. While the dream is inContinue reading “Fruity Alcoholic Drink Dream”

Am I Sober or Am I In Recovery?

What’s the difference? It’s BIG. Is there a difference? YES. To be sober – one needs to stop swallowing alcohol. That’s it. To be in recovery – one needs to become a non-drinker. These are two very different positions to take. The first is a change in outward behavior. Don’t pick up a drink. TheContinue reading “Am I Sober or Am I In Recovery?”