Does the word ‘trigger’ suggest that addicts sometimes act unaware of emotions that are driving their behaviour? Unfortunately – yes. Does this mean addicts are powerless over their drug of choice? No – it suggests they’re temporarily powerless over their ability to control themselves. There’s a huge difference. But I don’t think this happens veryContinue reading “Why Are Relapses Blamed on Triggers? And What’s A Trigger Anyway?”
Tag Archives: Self-Control
How Embarrassing.
I watched this video on YouTube and my heart sank. These women have ZERO self-respect. ZERO integrity. What happened to employing a little courtesy when out in public? What happened to showing another person just a little respect? I don’t know… There is no excuse for the madness. There is no excuse for the lackContinue reading “How Embarrassing.”
A Wild BEAST Monster!
We could look at our addiction as a monstrous and toothy beast that needs to be chained up and kept at bay. It might be helpful to recognize that people, addicted or not, are complicated and complex with multiple moving inner bits and pieces. Our addiction and our cravings and our urges and our behaviorsContinue reading “A Wild BEAST Monster!”
Self-Control + Will Power = A Recipe For Success. (When you use them.)
Those two qualities are innate within every human being. Those two qualities are what separate us from animals. Why some of us feel or think or believe that self-control and will power are elusive or are outside our capacity to utilize them, whenever we want to, is beyond me. It took me 23 years toContinue reading “Self-Control + Will Power = A Recipe For Success. (When you use them.)”
Saturation: A Memoir, Will Be Republished.
For those of you who have read my first book, Saturation, it is going to be rereleased this March. For those of you that haven’t read it – it’ll be out this March. My story cornicles the decades I spent trying to get sober. I spent nearly 12 months in nine residential treatment centers overContinue reading “Saturation: A Memoir, Will Be Republished.”
My Life Hurts.
I just read a post on a social network site where someone titled her thread with ~ The Alcohol I Drank Yesterday Is Triggering Me To Drink Today. I thought to myself, What?! Seriously? No. It’s not. The sun came up today and you’re still alive. That’s your trigger. I don’t believe in triggers. OnceContinue reading “My Life Hurts.”
240 Days Without A Drink!ð
For the last eight months, the only reason I’ve stayed sober is because I’ve chosen not to swallow alcohol.
Oh No. What Have I Done?
I set a goal. I never set goals. Here’s where I’m at. Proving to myself that I can do something, by doing it, is entirely different than having confidence in myself that I can do something I’ve never done. Yesterday I turned 51. I honestly never thought I would live to see this age. IContinue reading “Oh No. What Have I Done?”
The Problem With SELF-CONTROL
Isn’t that we don’t have any. It’s bountiful within each and every one of us, yet completely underutilized. Why? I don’t know! Self-control is right at our fingertips, but how many of us use it? We don’t go to the gym because we don’t feel like it. We eat the cookie because we want it.Continue reading “The Problem With SELF-CONTROL”
Please Hold. I Need To Overthink This.
What is it about the human condition that we, in general, have to make things so hard for ourselves? We overthink and over-complicate the simplest things. We’re so moved by our emotions that we’re at the mercy of them. We’re slaves to our own drives. No wonder some people suggest we only use about 10%Continue reading “Please Hold. I Need To Overthink This.”
Want Sobriety? Quit Drinking. 