Why Are Relapses Blamed on Triggers? And What’s A Trigger Anyway?

Does the word ‘trigger’ suggest that addicts sometimes act unaware of emotions that are driving their behaviour? Unfortunately – yes. Does this mean addicts are powerless over their drug of choice? No – it suggests they’re temporarily powerless over their ability to control themselves. There’s a huge difference. But I don’t think this happens veryContinue reading “Why Are Relapses Blamed on Triggers? And What’s A Trigger Anyway?”

AA Step 6 ~ Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

Entirely ready? God’s going to remove all of them? What if I need one later? What if I remove my defects myself through the practice of honesty and self-awareness, doing my best to make right choices and acting in integrity? Then I could say Iā€™m actually in the process of working on this stuff ā€“Continue reading “AA Step 6 ~ Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.”

AA Step 5 ~ Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongdoings.

What? The EXACT nature of my wrongdoings? What if I don’t know what they are – exactly? What if my list is really long? Like – who wants to listen to all of that? Wait. Do I even want to get into all that bologna? Seriously – what’s the point? How am I supposed toContinue reading “AA Step 5 ~ Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongdoings.”

AA Step 4 ~Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

This is probably my favorite step in AA. I’ve practiced this so regularly it’s something I do without even thinking about it. I think another way to put this step would be to write it as “Stop lying to yourself. The only fool here is you.” This step is a terrific way to not onlyContinue reading “AA Step 4 ~Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.”

Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. (AA Step 2.)

I never did. I got sane once I got sober, and I got sober on my own. Granted, I had plenty of verbal and emotional support, but no one got sober for me. Everything I relied on to get sober was already within me. And I believe that whatever that is – resides within everybody.Continue reading “Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. (AA Step 2.)”

When Does Sobriety Melt Into A Non-Issue?

If I refer to myself as a non-drinker and identify myself as such, which I do, why do I have to keep making my sobriety a priority? Why do I have to keep devoting mental space and energy to it? Can’t I just get on with the rest of my life already? I understand what’sContinue reading “When Does Sobriety Melt Into A Non-Issue?”