AA Step 4 ~Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

This is probably my favorite step in AA. I’ve practiced this so regularly it’s something I do without even thinking about it. I think another way to put this step would be to write it as “Stop lying to yourself. The only fool here is you.” This step is a terrific way to not onlyContinue reading “AA Step 4 ~Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.”

The Question of the Day: How Do I Know If I’m An Alcoholic?

That is such a quicksandy sort of question. What I mean is this – maybe you are and maybe you aren’t an alcoholic. Maybe you can learn to drink moderately and maybe it’s too late. Maybe you’re already good at having honest internal discussions with yourself or maybe you’re a good liar and even youContinue reading “The Question of the Day: How Do I Know If I’m An Alcoholic?”

Oh, SNAP. In Sobriety, I’ve Discovered A New Addiction To Multiple Things.

What-O-What am I supposed to do now that I’ve acknowledged my new addiction to kindness, hand holding, soft kisses, Mochas, helpful intentions, honesty, smiles, children laughing, babies smiling, warm covers, and good milk chocolate? Hm. Maybe Life’s just not so bad after all …

But I Thought I Really DID Want To Get Sober!

What does it say to us when we think we know what we want only to find out the hard way that we were WAY OFF? I’m coming to the conclusion – I think – that there are plenty of folks trying to get sober because they truly believe they want sobriety. And at first,Continue reading “But I Thought I Really DID Want To Get Sober!”

“I’ll Have An Alcohol Free Chardonnay And A Non-Fat Chocolate Brownie. Thank You.”

Some people’s behavior actually reflects this kind of thinking. I’m trying, and failing I think, to imagine the depths of their delusion here. I think that to build up any kind of positive self-image, which, I believe is necessary in order NOT to say things like that, one has to first start with being honestContinue reading ““I’ll Have An Alcohol Free Chardonnay And A Non-Fat Chocolate Brownie. Thank You.””

When Does Sobriety Melt Into A Non-Issue?

If I refer to myself as a non-drinker and identify myself as such, which I do, why do I have to keep making my sobriety a priority? Why do I have to keep devoting mental space and energy to it? Can’t I just get on with the rest of my life already? I understand what’sContinue reading “When Does Sobriety Melt Into A Non-Issue?”

Honest to a Fault

My grandmother used to say to me, “Jenny – you’re honest to a fault.” And I’d say. “So?!” And then she’d say, “That’s exactly what I mean.” And I’d walk away confused as ever. That was then. Today – I’m older and wiser and stuff. I’ve always been direct and blunt and straightforward. I don’tContinue reading “Honest to a Fault”