Behavior – Want Sobriety? Quit Drinking.

Prayer IS An Action. But – – – Wait A Minute!

I see a lot of folks offering things like: “Pray about it.” Or “Connect with your higher power.” Or “Have you asked God for help?” What I don’t see a lot of – and I’m talking about activity in rooms for addiction and/or recovery – is, “What have you done to try to fix this?” Or “WhatContinue reading “Prayer IS An Action. But – – – Wait A Minute!”

A Conversation …

“It wasn’t my choice to drink.” “But you did it anyway?” “Yeah.” “Well, whose choice choice was it?” “Mine. But I didn’t want to do it.” “That doesn’t seem to have anything to do with anything – does it?” “What? Not wanting to drink”” “Yes, because you went right ahead and did it anyway, didn’tContinue reading “A Conversation …”

Aw, Shit! I Took The Bait. Again.

Ever wonder why and how you manage to continually find yourself with the hook in your mouth? Ever ask yourself, “Why is it so insanely hard for me to get away from this person/situation? Why do I feel I have to react to every freaking thing this person says or does?” This person being anyoneContinue reading “Aw, Shit! I Took The Bait. Again.”

Can We Cut Through The Bullshit?

There’s no such thing as triggers. Alcoholics aren’t triggered to drink. Alcoholics find an excuse to drink and then later – point a finger at whatever ‘IT’ is or was, and call it a trigger. Please. We have to stop doing this. Now is a good time to own our behavior.

Am I Sober or Am I In Recovery?

What’s the difference? It’s BIG. Is there a difference? YES. To be sober – one needs to stop swallowing alcohol. That’s it. To be in recovery – one needs to become a non-drinker. These are two very different positions to take. The first is a change in outward behavior. Don’t pick up a drink. TheContinue reading “Am I Sober or Am I In Recovery?”

I am NOT An Alcoholic!

“I’m not slurring.” “I’m not spending all my money on alcohol.” “I can walk a straight line.” “I remember what I said last night. I just don’t want to rehash it.” “I’m not lying. Believe what you want.“ “Everyone needs to relax. I’m not drinking too much.” “My marriage/relationship has always been miserable.” “Of courseContinue reading “I am NOT An Alcoholic!”

Why Do We Feel Badly

When we know we’ve done the right thing? Okay, this doesn’t always happen – just occasionally. There are plenty of times when I do the right thing, and I feel fantastic and groovy in every way about it. Those feelings arise nearly all of the time, but not yesterday and not this morning. Yesterday IContinue reading “Why Do We Feel Badly”

Reasons Why I Drank:

The sun came up I had to pee My foot got twisted in the sheets My dog looked at me funny I was in withdrawal I was low on wine I had to go to the store for more wine My dad called I had to call my dad I had to go to workContinue reading “Reasons Why I Drank:”

Teacher

I want a teacher who actually recognizes the teaching position and makes him/herself useful that way. I’ll backtrack to the title of this post. I just left a relationship with a man who was a terrific teacher. He just didn’t realize he was doing it, What I learned the most from this person is thatContinue reading “Teacher”