Planning To Quit

Doesn’t work because before the big moment arrives, we have every opportunity up until then to change the plan. We know when we need to stop drinking. The only reason we don’t do it is because we don’t want to. The way to stop drinking is to stop thinking about it and just do it.Continue reading “Planning To Quit”

The Art of Getting Sober

Stop drinking. Getting sober is one thing. Becoming sober is another. If getting sober was easy, everyone would do it. But here’s the inside scoop – getting sober doesn’t have to be hard and it can be permanent. There’s only ONE thing anyone has to do – stop drinking alcohol. Isn’t that nuts? It’s crazyContinue reading “The Art of Getting Sober”

Intention Vs Focus

Can I be focused on one thing while my Intention is elsewhere? YES. I can easily focus on cooking dinner while my intention is to rearrange my living room (again). I can easily focus on driving my car to the grocery store while my intention is to make it OUT of the store without anyContinue reading “Intention Vs Focus”

Two Years Sober and a Relapse

Yowza. That has to be really hard to digest. Knowing that all the hard work it took over two years to get and stay sober is now in second place to a relapse. Ugh! I am constantly reminded by other folks who write about their relapses after substantial periods of sobriety that the addict voiceContinue reading “Two Years Sober and a Relapse”

Busted – Again

The following is an excerpt from my memoir, Saturation. When the police arrived, I didn’t wait for them to come into the house. I gave Dick a five-minute head start while I smoked a cigarette and finished my drink. Then I walked outside barefoot with my cell phone and introduced myself to the four police officersContinue reading “Busted – Again”

The Biggest Mistake …

Most folks can make at the onset of early sobriety is to go into it with a recovery plan made in cement. It sets them up for failure. But most people will disagree with me on this. For those of us in recovery, our plans for a sober future are akin to promises we makeContinue reading “The Biggest Mistake …”

I’m Powerless Over Alcohol

Wait. No, I’m not. Who said that? I’m not powerless over alcohol. I finally stopped drinking it for good and I haven’t looked back. That took and still takes ENORMOUS strength. I feel like She-Ra (but I’m not a blond). No addict is powerless over their drug of choice. As soon as we stop –Continue reading “I’m Powerless Over Alcohol”

Why do we relapse?

It is excruciating to discover that someone has relapsed. Especially when they’ve accumulated substantial time in sobriety. What on earth happened, I wonder. How could this person give up so much hard work and so much sober time – for what? Just about anything, anyone, and any occasion can be blamed for relapsing. But ultimately,Continue reading “Why do we relapse?”

Shadows

They’re great for making analogies, aren’t they? So elusive. So intangible and dark. But real all the same. In a way, they remind me of sobriety. Sobriety always seemed just out of reach during the midst of addiction, when really, the potential for it was right in front of my face the whole time. TheContinue reading “Shadows”

To Open Or Not To Open

So. Yesterday I mentioned that I feel it is important to try drugs. Not all of them, but one or two – knowing the consequences, knowing what you’re taking, knowing how much you’re taking – yada yada. It’s not only okay to try drugs, I think, doing so will enlarge a person’s life view. “BeenContinue reading “To Open Or Not To Open”

Is it Important to Experiment With Drugs?

Unless it’s in there and I can’t see it – cigarettes should be in that picture. My immediate “Go To” answer to the question of my post is a resounding YES. Then, when I think about the question for a bit, my answer is still, YES. I say Yes because I place great value onContinue reading “Is it Important to Experiment With Drugs?”

The Internal Tug of War

I read other’s posts regarding their struggle with alcohol and drinking and my heart goes out to them. If there was ever a fight on this planet worth fighting over and over and over again until the fight has been won, it’s alcoholism. I have fallen – crawled – literally – during the throes ofContinue reading “The Internal Tug of War”