AA – Step 9. AKA – O, Shit.

“Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.“ What if doing so would injure me? Then what? What if I hurt that one guy who works at that one store where I got my wine that one time in Geneva? Common sense dictates that theContinue reading “AA – Step 9. AKA – O, Shit.”

Step 8 ~ “Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends …

…To Them All.” From AA. ~~~~ I’m willing. But how can I tell if they feel or felt harmed? Do I ask – like – everyone I ever knew? That’s a lot of people – at least 26 to be sure. Alina, Bethany, Cindy, Delores, Frank, Grant, Harold, Iggy, Jake, Kitty, Loraine, Missy, Nadine, Oscar,Continue reading “Step 8 ~ “Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends …”

AA Step 5 ~ Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongdoings.

What? The EXACT nature of my wrongdoings? What if I don’t know what they are – exactly? What if my list is really long? Like – who wants to listen to all of that? Wait. Do I even want to get into all that bologna? Seriously – what’s the point? How am I supposed toContinue reading “AA Step 5 ~ Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongdoings.”

AA Step 4 ~Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

This is probably my favorite step in AA. I’ve practiced this so regularly it’s something I do without even thinking about it. I think another way to put this step would be to write it as “Stop lying to yourself. The only fool here is you.” This step is a terrific way to not onlyContinue reading “AA Step 4 ~Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.”

AA Step 3 ~Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.

Wait. Doesn’t AA suggest that the willpower we do have is insufficient to get sober alone? And if that is truly the case – what difference should it make if we give the insignificant amount of power we do have over to God? That would leave us without any whatsoever. Why should God get allContinue reading “AA Step 3 ~Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.”

Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. (AA Step 2.)

I never did. I got sane once I got sober, and I got sober on my own. Granted, I had plenty of verbal and emotional support, but no one got sober for me. Everything I relied on to get sober was already within me. And I believe that whatever that is – resides within everybody.Continue reading “Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. (AA Step 2.)”

“We admitted we were powerless over alcohol—that our lives had become unmanageable.” Step 1.

No, I am not powerless over alcohol. Alcohol is a liquid and so long as I don’t put it in my body, which is a choice, I have all the power over it I need. I got sober, on my own, and am staying sober. This is power. Saying No to a drink is power.Continue reading ““We admitted we were powerless over alcohol—that our lives had become unmanageable.” Step 1.”

The Confrontation

Lany, the assistant director of our treatment center, seemed oblivious to the fact that other people might overhear her if they’re standing next to her. I’d been editing my 1st step all morning. A 1st step is a lengthy AA assignment and we were asked to complete one during treatment. By the time I realizedContinue reading “The Confrontation”

The Shallowness And Narrow-Mindedness is Disgraceful.

I believe there are as many paths towards sobriety as there are people trying to get there. Everyone has a different story – except for the part where we drank too much. This – we all have in common. Every alcoholic can relate to and identify with why we become sober in the first place, which is theContinue reading “The Shallowness And Narrow-Mindedness is Disgraceful.”

Some People Are NOT GETTING IT. They Don’t Want To.

And I know what that’s like because I refused to change my behavior for decades. I knew that to get and to stay sober I had to become a permanent non-drinker – I just refused to do it. Yesterday, I replied to a social network post where a woman who had experienced 32 years ofContinue reading “Some People Are NOT GETTING IT. They Don’t Want To.”

Dry Drunk?! Who Coined THAT Term?

Happy people focus on what they have. Unhappy people focus on what they don’t have. It makes sense. Who said “See that guy over there? He’s been sober for 22 years and he’s just a miserable SOB. All the time. I’m going to call him a Dry Drunk and hope everyone else catches on.” AndContinue reading “Dry Drunk?! Who Coined THAT Term?”