We could look at our addiction as a monstrous and toothy beast that needs to be chained up and kept at bay.
It might be helpful to recognize that people, addicted or not, are complicated and complex with multiple moving inner bits and pieces. Our addiction and our cravings and our urges and our behaviors are just some of these moving inner bits that can be viewed by other people. When we look inside ourselves, we can see that the word “I” refers to something plural – not singular. Having mixed emotions and thoughts about something or someone is evidence of this.
When the part of me that is my addiction screams for a drink – I can direct the other part of me that ISN’T my addiction to say “No. Shhhh. You can’t have a drink. Go sit down and be quiet.”
I believe this is an example of self-control. And people who want self-control can have it. It’s within. It requires an internal search.