Here’s a little something to shine the light on… I think many of us have these worn down mental pathways of thinking that reinforce ugly feelings. And once we feel these ugly feelings – they – in turn – reinforce the ugly thoughts. And we go ’round and ’round in ugly circles. What might be worth trying is doing something that breaks this habit of thinking. In other words – participating in a new behavior.
Distracting ourselves with a funny movie or a good book, going outside or starting a conversation with someone about a subject we care about – these are easy things we can do to break into that habitual way of obsessing about something in our minds. In addiction and during early sobriety, it’s easy to obsess about things – to return to those habitual ways of processing information and solving problems that no longer work for us because they only cause us angst. These can be things a person said or did or things they didn’t say or do.
I think part of the new journey for addicts and alcoholics, once we get clean and sober, is to form new mental pathways that reinforce good and positive feelings. This takes work. And patience. And time. And the practice of new behaviors.