“Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.“
What if doing so would injure me? Then what?
What if I hurt that one guy who works at that one store where I got my wine that one time in Geneva?
Common sense dictates that the folks who really care about us already know how apologetic we were. They took the ride with us. They didn’t abandon us. We communicated – usually. How do I figure?
“JENNY. I KNOW YOU’RE SORRY. YOU’VE TOLD ME 1400 TIMES. JUST STAY SOBER THIS TIME. MKAY?”
I haven’t made amends to a lot of people and if I had to guess – – – they couldn’t give a shit. They’re certainly not hung up on when they might receive a phone call or an email from me trying to make amends. They have a life and other – more relevant, pertinent, priorities. Thank GOD!
The one thing I will comment on when it comes to apologizing or trying to make an amends – NO ONE wants to hear from us unless we have some solid time in sobriety AND successes under our belt. They don’t want to hear it. They don’t want to hear from us. They already have an opinion of us. Until we can knock their socks off with some UBER impressive news – no, winning the lottery doesn’t count, they probably just