When was the last time you noticed the good in a situation rather than the piece that is missing or out of place? Ever notice how easy it is to streamline directly to what is wrong or missing rather than what is correct and present?
I do. My boyfriend makes me a cup of coffee. Am I grateful and appreciative? Yes. Does it taste good? Yes. Do I tell him this? YES. Were these my first thoughts? No. What were my first thoughts? It’s not hot enough and needs more creamer.
Is this kind of thinking a crime?
Is it healthy?
I doubt it.
Why do I do it? I don’t know,
If I want my coffee perfect (AKA the way I like it) I have to make it myself. So – wait – which do I prefer more? Do I accept the coffee my boyfriend makes so I don’t have to get out of bed or do I flop over onto the floor, stumble into the kitchen and make it myself so it tastes the way I like it? Six of one – half a dozen of the other. Which one which one? This or that? His way or my way?
Sheesh. I don’t remember asking for this sort of ongoing conundrum.
Can I train myself to not always immediately think about what’s wrong with a situation? I don’t know how to do this. Hm. And I always thought I was an upbeat and positive sorta gal. Dangit!