When alcoholics. or addicts, are in the throes of detox and trying to get sober/clean – it’s nearly impossible for us to identify with a sober person dealing with us. It’s hard enough for folks to identify with one another when everyone involved is sober. But when one in the party of two or more is intoxicated or sick and detoxing – the sick one is incapable of being selfless. We’re too wrapped up in our own pain. We’re blinded by it. We’re sick and our sickness is engulfing.
I don’t agree that it’s another person’s job or obligation to hold our hand while we try come in from the darkness of addiction. But it is a gift when they do.