Self-Control + Will Power = A Recipe For Success. (When you use them.)

Those two qualities are innate within every human being. Those two qualities are what separate us from animals. Why some of us feel or think or believe that self-control and will power are elusive or are outside our capacity to utilize them, whenever we want to, is beyond me. It took me 23 years toContinue reading “Self-Control + Will Power = A Recipe For Success. (When you use them.)”

“But I’m Funnier When I’m Drunk.”

(Sure you are – to other drunk people.) That’s what a woman on a social network site wrote. So I wrote, “Are you sure you’re funnier or do you just feel funnier because you’re drunk?” And then I asked, “Why do you think it’s so important to present to the world an inauthentic version ofContinue reading ““But I’m Funnier When I’m Drunk.””

My Dad Quit Drinking For His Wife.

My stepmother had to stop drinking because she was an alcoholic. She went to residential treatment for her problem and has never had another sip of alcohol. My dad, because he didn’t want to do anything that might tempt her, and because he loves and supports her, quit drinking alcohol even though he’s not anContinue reading “My Dad Quit Drinking For His Wife.”

The Shallowness And Narrow-Mindedness is Disgraceful.

I believe there are as many paths towards sobriety as there are people trying to get there. Everyone has a different story – except for the part where we drank too much. This – we all have in common. Every alcoholic can relate to and identify with why we become sober in the first place, which is theContinue reading “The Shallowness And Narrow-Mindedness is Disgraceful.”

Saturation: A Memoir, Will Be Republished.

For those of you who have read my first book, Saturation, it is going to be rereleased this March. For those of you that haven’t read it – it’ll be out this March. My story cornicles the decades I spent trying to get sober. I spent nearly 12 months in nine residential treatment centers overContinue reading “Saturation: A Memoir, Will Be Republished.”

You Just Realized You’re Being Tracked By A Shark. What’s That Feeling Called?

I think it’s called O Shit! Or maybe that’s just how I experience anxiety – like I just noticed a shark is looking at me. Sheer terror. I think this analogy is a good one and I wonder how others try to describe their feelings of anxiety. Because doctors always ask that – “What’s theContinue reading “You Just Realized You’re Being Tracked By A Shark. What’s That Feeling Called?”

Maybe You Saw This – It Went Viral. Just. WOW.

This distraught elderly man was in the ICU with Covid on Thanksgiving and had no visitors. That’s his physician. I had forgotten what it feels like to have a lump move up into my throat. I’m not used to those kinds of feelings. I saw this photo on the news last night and It’s justContinue reading “Maybe You Saw This – It Went Viral. Just. WOW.”

A Curious Realization. Ever Have One?

So, it dawned on me last night, as I was laying in bed trying to fall asleep, that this relationship I’ve been trying to excuse myself from – has some eerie similarities to the experiences I had trying to get sober. It took me 23 years to get sober and to find myself in aContinue reading “A Curious Realization. Ever Have One?”

The Process. Drink, Get Sober, Relapse, Repeat.

While I understand and respect the value of experiencing the full process of addiction and recovery – I feel the need to put it out there that many who do choose to directly experience every nuance of the path, don’t make it to the happy ending called recovery. For some of us – our addictionsContinue reading “The Process. Drink, Get Sober, Relapse, Repeat.”

My Sweet – Sweet Sweet Sweet Sister, Claire.

We had this fantabulous talk last night on the phone and I told her I was running out of fuel for my blog. I’m not running out of things to say, but I’m running low on motivation. Motivation is the fuel that lights the fire. Not so sure I want to keep at it. IContinue reading “My Sweet – Sweet Sweet Sweet Sister, Claire.”

How Did I Overcome Desolation?

I’ve been there. Many times. And this is a tough one. A touchy one. This is one where a lot of folks might make a sad awkward face because they’re not sure what to say. There are a million positive words floating around out there just waiting to be snatched up and used, yet noneContinue reading “How Did I Overcome Desolation?”

But I Thought I Really DID Want To Get Sober!

What does it say to us when we think we know what we want only to find out the hard way that we were WAY OFF? I’m coming to the conclusion – I think – that there are plenty of folks trying to get sober because they truly believe they want sobriety. And at first,Continue reading “But I Thought I Really DID Want To Get Sober!”

Some People Are NOT GETTING IT. They Don’t Want To.

And I know what that’s like because I refused to change my behavior for decades. I knew that to get and to stay sober I had to become a permanent non-drinker – I just refused to do it. Yesterday, I replied to a social network post where a woman who had experienced 32 years ofContinue reading “Some People Are NOT GETTING IT. They Don’t Want To.”