Where does the idea that one might have a problem with alcohol abuse come from? Thoughts don’t just pop into our head out of the abyss. Right? They must come from somewhere. So where is this place? And why that idea?
I seriously doubt our conscience has a sense of humor. And even if it did, I doubt it would joke to us about something like the possibility of a drinking problem. That’s just not funny. Our bodies and minds know how to communicate with us, but I think many of us suffer from not knowing how to listen. We aren’t aware when our body and mind are saying something or we attribute their message to something else. It’s easy to get distracted by life. I know. Still – a possible drinking problem is no small matter and I think that when the idea of whether one might have a drinking problem occurs to that person – that same person really needs to take a long look at their drinking pattern. Clearly, something outside of “Cool” is going on.
There is a time, which is different for everyone, that it becomes impossible to undo what has been done when it comes to drinking alcohol. We encounter a point of no return. We’ve already consumed, at some intangible point, enough alcohol, over the course of our lifetime, for it to alter our thinking and the way we interpret and react to the world. We can stop drinking and our minds will heal, but if we continue drinking, we will continue to damage our brains and bodies. And unfortunately, along with all the other problems this causes, problem drinkers aren’t aware of themselves because their brain is already fogged, even if they didn’t drink last night. The long-term effects from drinking last longer than the intoxication. That’s a bummer, but true all the same.
I doubt it matters so much whether someone drinks every day. What matters is whether someone has negatively affected their ability to think coherently and make right choices and decisions. I read a lot from folks who ask strangers whether they should consider themselves alcoholics even though they only drink four or five nights a week or they drink regularly, but don’t get drunk. I think the focus needs to be on intention. Why drink so much in the first place? Because – eventually, it will catch up.
Can or do you say to yourself that you did or said something against your better judgement? If you hadn’t been drinking, how might things be different? Has anyone ever suggested to you that you drink too much or that you should try cutting back or quitting altogether? Where do you think that idea came from? Did it just pop into their head out of nowhere? Do you think it was easy for that person to approach you about your drinking in the first place? That’s a very touchy subject. We take our alcohol and drinking very seriously in this society.
If you can say that you’re doing or saying things against your better judgement and that you’ve been drinking before you say or do ill-advised things, you might want to look at that. That comment is the bar by which all other things need to be measured.
Give yourself the test. See if you can moderate your drinking. Try just having one.