Some people’s behavior actually reflects this kind of thinking.
I’m trying, and failing I think, to imagine the depths of their delusion here. I think that to build up any kind of positive self-image, which, I believe is necessary in order NOT to say things like that, one has to first start with being honest with oneself. Brutally honest if necessary.
I’ve never known a normal drinker to drink non-alcoholic beverages or a slim person to eat diet foods. No – normal drinkers, who aren’t indulging, will have water or juice or something similar when they want something to drink. Average or slim weight folks eat what they want to eat – in moderation. These diet and non-alcoholic treats exist for the population of problem drinkers and overweight folks – to help them convince themselves that it’s cool to pretend. If that’s not delusional – what is?
Diet foods and non-alcoholic drinks taste TERRIBLE. I’ve tried them both. And I don’t believe one person who says they taste good. That’s a person who has convinced him or herself that it tastes good simply so they can consume it. WOW. That’s just crazy.
So what does the alcoholic or overweight person think they’re really accomplishing by drinking or eating this stuff? What are they getting away with? What are they trying to say to themselves and to the world? Are they getting fatter or drunk by indulging in these things? No. But they’re rationalizing and rationalizing isn’t directly honest. Is it?
They’re saying to themselves – “Hey, this is a non-fat Twinkie” or “This is a non-alcoholic bottle of wine. I can eat and drink these things because they’re not contributing to my problem.” And to them, this is perfectly reasonable. My issue with all of it is that eating and drinking this stuff is an attempt to get the ARTIFICIAL benefit of the treat while ignoring the reason one isn’t having the real stuff in the first place. Where’s the fun in that?
Instead of just being upfront and saying “I don’t drink” or “No thanks, I’m going to pass” (without offering an explanation because those are no one’s business), they’d rather pretend. Where is the reality in pretending anything?
What is the shame in stating the obvious? Everyone usually knows when someone has a serious drinking problem long before the problem drinker admits it. It’s never the secret we wish it was. Everyone knows someone has a problem with overeating because we can SEE it. Walking around with a boxful of Diet Triple Fudge Brownies isn’t fooling anyone.
Well. Okay then…