By the time folks “decide” to get sober, they’ve likely been tossing around the idea of quitting drinking for a long long time. There’s always a part of us, regardless how small it is, that doesn’t want to stop. And so we engage it, become confused by it, think about it, talk about it, and eventually – some of us are finally able to override it.
There is one stage to getting sober – stop drinking.
There is one stage to moving into recovery – become someone who does not drink. Period. No other words are necessary. No overthinking it is necessary.
I don’t drink. That’s all a person has to say (and mean without reservation) to him/herself or to another person. Nothing else. Explanations and reasons are personal and don’t need to be shared.
Our addiction lives inside us. It’s my position that it lives in our minds. One of the worst things we can do when our intention is to overcome an addiction – is to give it stage time in our minds by engaging it.