Ever tell someone to do that? Ever say to yourself “I just need to let go.” and then wonder why – after two months – you’re still hurting over it/her/him/whatever? Jeez. How mysteriously annoying!
I’ve said it and had it said to me numerous times. It is a mystery – the pain that refuses to leave. And we’re supposed to go about our days like everything’s fine when it’s not. Why is this so hard for so many people – to ‘let go’?
I think I figured it out – all this ‘letting go’ that we’re supposed to do doesn’t just happen. All this attachment – these feelings we have surrounding the issue – are just sitting inside of us with nowhere to go. So we have to create some kind of an outlet for them. When we do let something go – it has to GO somewhere, right? Feelings don’t just dissolve or drift off like smoke from a chimney.
We can do lots of things to try to assuage these feelings that we’re supposed to be letting go of; we can exercise, overeat, have lots of sex, sleep, sink into depression, relocate, shop, and the list goes on.
We could also cry, scream into a pillow, write letters and set them on fire, and finally accept that healing from anything takes time. When we get the flu, we don’t get better overnight. When we break a bone, it doesn’t heal the next day. So it is with our hearts and emotions. Time is necessary in addition to being gentle with ourselves while we ‘let go’ – of whatever needs to be released.
I could be wrong, but like love – I’m beginning to think that pain wants to be expressed. Not that it knows this – but our emotions might as well be alive for all the power they seem to have over us at times.
Something to think on …