The addict voice (AV) that takes up residency in our minds does a number on the words we throw at it when we’re trying to get sober. Why is it so hard for us to wrap our minds around one single powerful word? What is one word we say over and over and over to children that works better than any argument we could ever get into with them? We say NO. We have to say it because children usually don’t know any better or because they either want or want to do something that is unwise. Saying NO – and then dropping the subject – is really the ONLY message that seems to quell the addict voice.
Any other words we throw at it – words that form complete sentences – are words to be toyed with and manipulated by the AV. The more an addict tries to communicate with the AV and talk it down, the more likely the addict will begin to buckle until relapse becomes inevitable. Our AV is unparalleled when it comes to trying to get what it wants – regardless the consequences.
Seriously, just say NO.