I know! I know! I know! It’s an insult thrown around by folks who swear by AA. It’s supposed to refer to an individual, male or female, who – though not drinking – is still behaving as though he or she is. Wait. What?!
There’s no such thing as a Dry Drunk. A person either drinks alcohol or they don’t. There is no in-between. You either drank the Slurpee or you didn’t. Right? No one can sorta-but-not-really drink a Slurpee.
How a person acts while in early sobriety can be extremely confusing to watch, this is true. However, there is a reason for this confusing behavior. Early sobriety for a hardcore alcoholic like myself left me reeling – as though I’d just clawed my way out of a horrific relationship. Well, that’s EXACTLY what had just happened. Of course most things I said confused people. I was SAD and DEPRESSED and EASILY STARTLED and PISSED OFF. That can be some jacked up confusing behavior. All those feelings certainly felt confusing. I was confused. Nothing felt stable.
The good news? Once we get sober, we eventually get our legs back. They don’t stay wobbly forever. Clarity replaces confusion. But we can’t just be disciplined with our sobriety and our recovery. We have to OWN them – like a mama bear with her cubs – we have to shower our sobriety and recovery with the ultimate protection. Then we can live and be proud, and these two things are not insignificant.