Drinking is a choice ~
~So is getting sober.
My second memoir is currently under construction. Stay tuned! (10/8/20)
I created this blog/website for several reasons. I intend to use it to help myself stay focused on my own recovery. I’m also hoping that twenty three years of experience with alcohol, drinking, relapses, hangovers, withdrawal, the DTs, hospitals, jails, treatment centers, relationships, and relocations hasn’t all been for nothing. Perhaps my experiences will provide another addict with ideas and the inspiration needed to begin their own sober journey. And finally, I hope everyone who reads what is written in these pages walks away having learned something. Anything.
Sometimes, deciding how best to work through a situation can be frustrating and daunting. This is usually due to perceived obstacles, and these obstacles usually present themselves in the form of choices. What to do? How do I go about this? Who will this hurt? Which way is faster? Who do I tell? When should I? … fill in the blank. And on and on.
The decision to stop drinking was a hard one for me because by the time I actually did stop, I only had two options left: drink more and face death or stop drinking and endure withdrawal. I’m a Libra and weighing decisions is what I do best, but this situation had me in a knot because neither of my choices looked good.
My drinking had gone on for so long (23 years) that by the end of it, every other option – inpatient treatment, outpatient treatment, caregivers, meetings, hospitals, detox, jail, probation, sober living housing – had been exhausted. The options I had left looked torturous. It would be painful to detox and it would be painful to keep drinking. Drinking had lost its seductive appeal years before I quit for good.
My decision to finally get sober took place at home. I chose not to detox under medical supervision only because I knew what to expect. And on this note, I need to add that choosing to detox without the support of a medical professional can be extremely dangerous. Please do your research and do not make the decision to do this without first notifying your doctor and/or mental health provider.***
~ All things being equal, the simplest explanation tends to be the right one. ~
Ever heard of Occam’s Razor? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Occam’s_razor When I applied this principle to getting sober – all things being equal – the simplest explanation was to simply stop swallowing alcohol. That’s it. That’s all I had to do. Easier said than done – but I did it.
I am a Certified Recovery Coach; trained by a Yale University Psychiatry Professor with the Institute for Life Coach Training. I have also worked as a Peer Support Specialist at a local hospital with folks in addiction recovery.
*This site is a blog and it also offers coaching in the form of reciprocal online communication. While coaching is a service, healthy comments and exchanges between readers is encouraged.*
**Disclaimer: I am not a doctor, a therapist, a priest or a counselor.**